What you need to know

Before Death

With many aspects of life, it is good to plan ahead. This is especially true when a loved one is seriously ill. Father Dury will adjust his schedule to meet with you and your ill family member. Sometimes when a family waits to arrange for an anointing until the family member is near death, the family member dies before Father can arrive. Families generally know best when to arrange for an anointing and when you first think about it, is probably a good time to arrange it. Contact Father or Deacon Carl Calcara, Pastoral Associate, (614-937-5567) to arrange for Father to visit your loved one when he or she is seriously ill. For more information on the Sacrament for the Anointing of the Sick, see here.

When Father arrives to visit with your loved one, he will administer the Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick and typically give your loved one Communion. Following the Anointing, Father will pray the prayers for the commendation of the dying, if appropriate. A person who has died before being anointed cannot receive the Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick because sacraments are celebrated for the living. However, those who have died are effectively helped by the prayers of the living. Father or Deacon can pray the prayers of the dead for the family member and his/her family.

As many funeral homes and cemeteries offer advanced planning, you can also plan a funeral Mass in advance. Contact Deacon Carl to learn more about planning a funeral Mass.

What We Believe

“Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again.” Our faith in the Paschal Mystery (the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ) reveals itself through the dying and death of each Christian. In facing death, we are reminded that God has created each person for eternal life. We celebrate the funeral rites to offer worship, praise and thanksgiving to God for the gift of a person’s life, which has now been returned to God the Father.

At the death of a Christian, the Church intercedes on behalf of the deceased. We are confident in the conviction that death is not the end nor does it break the bonds of family, friendship and community that are forged in life. The Church through its funeral rites commends the dead to God’s merciful love and pleads for the forgiveness of their sins. The celebration of the Christian funeral brings hope and consolation to the living. The Church celebrates Christ’s Passover from death to life and our participation in this great mystery in the Mass. The faith of all the baptized is renewed and nourished in this celebration. The intimate connection between the baptism of the Christian into the death and resurrection of Christ and the Eucharistic celebration is one of the main reasons for offering the Mass for the deceased. In summary, we believe that in celebrating the funeral rites, we affirm and express the union of the Church on earth with the Church in heaven in the one great communion of saints. Though separated from the living, the dead are still at one with the community of believers on earth and benefit from their prayers and intercession. In the gathering of the community of believers with the community of saints in heaven, we offer our prayers through the person of Jesus Christ in the greatest prayer of the Church, which is the Eucharist.

Catholics Bury Their Dead with Dignity

When we are baptized we believe that our bodies are marked with the seal of the Holy Trinity. Since we are temples of the Holy Spirit we respect and honor the bodies of the dead and their places of rest. The customs associated with the preparation of the body of the deceased are always marked with dignity and reverence and never with the despair of those who have no hope. For the final disposition of the body, it is the ancient Christian custom to bury or entomb the bodies of the dead in a consecrated and holy place.

Catholics may receive the rites of Christian burial within the Mass of Christian Burial. Members of other Christian faith traditions usually receive the funeral rites of their own Church. However, they may also receive the rite of Christian burial in the Catholic Church outside of the Mass. A Christian burial service, commendation, and committal at the graveside may be offered for them.

The Three Stations of Christian Burial

When a member of the faithful has died, the Church identifies three stations, or time periods, for the celebration of the rite of Christian burial: the Vigil Service, the Mass of Christian Burial, and the Rite of Committal.

The Vigil Service

The Vigil for the deceased, commonly known as the Wake, is the initial rite celebrated by the Christian community at the time following death and before the funeral liturgy. The Vigil usually takes place in a funeral home. It may also take place in the family home or in the parish church, as local custom dictates.
The celebration of the Vigil is the time for the Christian community to offer both prayer and consolation to the members of the bereaved family; to read and reflect on the Word of God; to call upon our God of Mercy through intercessory prayer; and to provide an opportunity for family and friends to recall the memory of their loved one.

Other prayers, such as the Rosary, are also encouraged since they help us to reflect upon the Paschal Mystery and so lead us to a greater sense of hope at this time of grief. However, the Rosary should normally be prayed outside of the Vigil service for ecumenical purposes.

The Mass of Christian Burial

For Catholics, the celebration of the Mass is both the source and the summit of our faith. Hence, when we celebrate the Mass at the time of death it is seen as the fullest expression of our faith in God’s abundant mercy, our hope in the resurrection of the dead, and the love that God has for us, which is not extinguished even by death. We actively participate in the Funeral Mass as an expression of our faith in Jesus Christ. Family members may choose the Scripture readings for the Mass, select hymns for the community to sing, cover the casket with the pall, place Christian symbols on the casket (crucifix, bible) and present the bread and wine at the preparation rite. Members of the parish community also participate in the funeral liturgy and join with the bereaved family in the celebration of the funeral rites by proclaiming the Word, leading the faithful in song, serving at the altar and helping with the distribution of communion.

The Rite of Committal

The Rite of Committal is celebrated at the place of burial. In the committal of the body to its place of rest, we express our hope that the deceased will experience the glory of the resurrection. The committal must always be celebrated immediately following the funeral, unless a good pastoral reason dictates otherwise, such as travel to a distant cemetery. In the case of cremation, the cremated remains of the deceased must always be immediately interred in a consecrated burial site.

About Catholic Cemeteries

Since the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, the Catholic Church has always set aside ground that is blessed and consecrated by God for the specific purpose of providing Christians with a dignified and holy resting place. The sacred nature of cemeteries is directly related to the Church’s belief in the resurrection of the body and the final consummation of the world.

Baptized Catholics may be buried in a Catholic cemetery. Non-practicing Catholics, Catholics who may have joined another Christian denomination, non-Catholic spouses and other family members of Catholics may be buried in a Catholic cemetery. Many Catholic cemeteries have a reserved area for the burial of unborn children.

Final Thoughts on Catholic Funerals

At times when death catches us off guard we may not always remember that the Funeral Rites are liturgical rites of the Church. Please understand if Father Noble cannot accommodate some requests, such as a specific poem, song or article that was your loved one’s favorite. There are other moments outside of the liturgy, such as the Wake, when you can share these things with your family and friends. Funerals are a special time for God’s grace and mercy, a time to open your heart, receive His blessings and place your hope in the resurrection of His Son, Jesus Christ.